5 Tell-tale Signs You’re Dating a Psychopathic Narcissist
#4 will blow your mind.
Psychopaths are really smart at doing this. They get closer to you, form a strong grip around your weaknesses, and cross personal boundaries intentionaly in a relationship. For them, everything is a game. And your emotions are mere tools.
One of my friends who once dated a psychopath / narcissist described this to me. He said:
“The entire time I dated her, my sleeping patterns became worse. I suffered from eating disorders. I acted poorly on my day job. And all of my life goals flew out the window.”
Furthermore, he added:
“Every time I tried to resolve the issue, she would put the blame on me. She would say things that hardly made any sense. And even if I reached out there to help her, she remained silent and acted naive.”
While my friend’s relationship with her ended a long time ago, setting him free from toxicity, here are some 5 tell-tale signs that ensure you’re dating a psychopath / narcissist.
1 ) They create drama out of thin air:
For a psychopathic person, watching people in denial and confusion is funnier than anything in the world. It’s fun for them the same way it’s fun for you to walk around in the park.
So, when they’re free and have nothing to do with their life, all they do is create drama. And they won’t even mean anything. They just act normal, it would be you reacting to their stimuli.
They would say nasty things like:
“Oh, I’m pissed off of this.”
“This is not working out as I wished it to be.”
“Why does everyone blame me?”
“You’re not trying to understand.”
Well, there’s nothing wrong with screaming out these sentences. We all do it sometimes.
However, a healthy person explains and tries to resolve the issue instead of repeating the old patterns again to see how her partner reacts to it and how it affects him in a while.
2 ) They lack deep emotional touch with everyone:
To me, this is like the chicken or the egg problem. The more I think about it, the more I get confused.
Is it because they lack deep emotional touch that turned them to be a psychopath / narcissist or are they like this so they never formed a deep emotional touch with anyone?
This is kinda hard to answer. So I leave this to the experts of psychology and neuroscience.
But for a psychopath / narcissist, having people in life is just a means to an end. Simple. As long as you fulfil their intrinsic desire, they’re with you.
The day you’re unable to do so, they’ll leave you. They wouldn’t even try listening to anything you’ve to say. They make up their own mind about it and leave.
Psychopaths / narcissists act kind and generous to you and people around them. However, for them, it’s just a strategy to be naive and manipulate others to fulfil their own desires.
We all do it sometimes. But psychopaths / Narcissists take it to an extreme exploiting someones’ entire life and mental stability.
3 ) They love crossing boundaries:
The only reason behind psychopaths / narcissists crossing boundaries is because they don’t have one themselves. They act as an unidentified flying object with no navigation around it.
They act on impulse, lack long-term thinking and make poor decisions in life, career and relationship. But what if the psychopath / narcissist is the love of your life and someone you can’t live without?
You can do either of these two things:
Suffer. Suffer. Suffer. And suffer even more to an extreme, letting them destroy your mental peace. Or, die trying to change them on a whim.
A psychopath / narcissist cannot be changed until they realize their own deeds themselves. Otherwise, your affection and love for them is gonna hurt you in the end.
A friend I’ve mentioned above in the beginning of this article said, “there were multiple times I caught her flirting sexually with other men.”
There were times when she would do things on purpose to see how he’s gonna react and she used mind games endlessly.
He added, “everytime I tried to talk about it she would act naive and act as if by asking about it I’ve done something wrong.”
Psychopaths / narcissists don’t have boundaries. They do what they like without caring about how this is gonna make the other person feel. Either accept it and suffer, or leave. It’s up to you.
4 ) They’re obsessed with themselves:
To an extent, we’re all obsessed with ourselves. That’s why men shave or trim their beard precisely and women apply makeup on their face.
However, for psychopaths / narcissists, their obsession with themselves is unmatchable by you or me or anyone. They think highly of themselves. Higher than anyone around them.
Their obsession with themselves leads them to yearn for everything in their life according to what they want and not the other way around.
With them, you’re never gonna have a hand for hand kind of love and care or even a friendship. The only thing they know is, give me your hand when I need it, but when you need it, it depends on my mood whether I want to give it or not.
That’s ridiculous, isn’t it? That’s not the love you want. That’s not a partner you want to be with. I’ve come across a few people who’ve dated or be friends with a psychopath / narcissist, and personally, I’ve dealt with one or two of them myself, we all had one thing in mind that helped us sneak out:
I won’t let you destroy my life and mental peace. I’m going to reclaim it. Fuck you! Do your thing.
5 ) They’re professional at projecting a good image:
Of all things I’ve done in my life, here’s my one regret. I wished I had said this to all psychopaths / narcissists I’ve encountered in my life: get a career in Public Relations, bitch!
They’ve a good chance of being a PR head of a celebrity or a brand or professional. Because they’re so good at projecting this image of themselves where they look so good and act so innocent and naive.
They won’t even seem like a threat to you. They’re charming and gorgeous. Most of the time, their image is exactly the opposite of what the evil people are portrayed in movies and TV shows.
Oftentimes, naive people who’re too nice and caring are the ones they prey on. The endless games and tactics they use is beyond your imagination, unless you’re a psychopath / narcissist.
They’re smart, very smart to say it specifically. Their mind is on fire 24/7 thinking numerous things. But mostly, they think about useless things. Things that don’t make sense to anyone but them.
So, in conclusion, this was all I had to say about psychopaths / narcissists. Dating them can be a nightmare, because they act as chameleons changing colours frequently and suck life inside of you like a leech.
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